“I don’t believe in myself. I’m too fat, I’m not satisfied with my job and I think I am capable of more. I’m almost 40 and I want to stop being jealous of those around me. I want to be calm, to enjoy my work, and learn how to accept the things I don’t like about my husband.”
When she said these things to me, she touched my heart. This client described her life during a time of darkness. She said that she was thinking of leaving her husband and that her fears were controlling her. I wanted to tell her that it’s completely normal. I have also gone through dark periods in my life. Like her, I also went through times where I didn’t believe in myself and felt that I was unable to change the situation. I was stuck in place. I was jealous of other people’s “perfect” lives, I wanted what they had. Until one day when I just had enough. I had had enough of being jealous, and enough of wanting things I didn’t have. I decided to get a grip and so I began studying to be a life coach.
The process of becoming a life coach opened a door for me, a door to a new and magical world, in which dreams really do come true and I had the strength to achieve them. The process I went through was so powerful that I still follow a similar process with my clients. A client wrote to me saying: “I learned how to look inside myself, to neutralize background noise, today I don’t care what others think about me, now I understand that I am worth it, I believe in myself, and with the sessions, process and tools I received from you, two years after, I am lighter, 20 kilograms lighter. My fears disappeared once I was reacquainted with myself and they have left room for good things. I went back to studying and even got offered the job I always dreamed of!” She also told me that she now goes to the gym a few times a week and eats healthily. She feels stronger and more capable than ever before, mainly due to the effort she made to overcome her emotional eating habits.
But she’s not alone. There are so many women like her that struggle with their self-confidence, anxiety, and with postpartum weight gain. I know you’ll agree with me that these things can be very damaging to one’s self-confidence. All we want is to feel like ourselves, lose weight, and feel more confident.
My client and I had 14 sessions during which time we worked together on turning negative thoughts into positive ones and we figured out that the cause of her anxiety was the way in which she was interpreting her thoughts. I gave her advice on how to be the leader of her own life so that she can make things happen the way she wants them to, just like I did for many other women who were in a similar situation. During our meetings, we created a custom program for her that she still uses today. Now she is in a much better place and can look inside herself and be satisfied with what she sees. Now she loves herself as she is! She can now fit into her jeans from before her pregnancies. And most importantly, she stayed with her husband and feels much better about their relationship!
